I’m suffering from stigma fatigue. This battle that seems endless. There is this feeling of a wall of perpetual ignorance about the subject of stigma. It always gets boiled down to a sound byte of intellect saying, “I’m not rejected therefore there is not stigma.”
Now let me say, I don’t live my life thinking about stigma. If I did I certainly wouldn’t be putting my face and personal story everywhere. So it’s hard to have to wrap my head around this day after day while seeing witnessing the constant dismissal of lived experiences shared by many.
Since we are all in Obama mania mode style, let me say this. It’s like saying that since Obama is president, as monumental of an occasion as it was, that racism no long exists.
There is a fine line between naming something and discussing it, and being a victim. I chose to stay off the victim side of the fence. I think most leaving comments as well are not victims.
I’m not sure what it’s going to take to communicate essential viewpoints and thoughts to the negative population, and at times positive. The negative guys think it’s not their problem and as long as they put Clean UB2 and D&D Free they are fine and why bother with this stuff. Stigma and the effects of it are topics for those who are positive not me.
Yet, at the very same time their very behaviour and attitudes contribute to a cycle that simply increases risk of transmission and they have to be a part of the dialogue.
Now, I admit, as I’m writing this I’m thinking of a select population that do not represent all negative gay men as there could not be one kind of negative guy just as there are not one kind of positive guy.
Maybe we need any guy who wants to be gay to go through a mandatory course to get his gay card. Part of that curriculum would be how to deal with issues of sexual health is an open and honest way.
At the end of the day, I don’t care if you don’t want to ________ me. But how you deal with it, how you treat me, and present your choices, not only directly affects me, but the entire community.
Now we will never know if there has been a negative audience coming to this site. People assume that once again this would only be of concern for us positive folks. I really do hope that some have taken the initiative to come here.